A waywards guide to DTR

I thought since this recently happened to me and is the most popular topic around my circle of friends (both girls and guys); DTR "Defining The Relationship" seems to be the most frustrating topic that both genders are experiencing in the early stages of a relationship.

For both guys and girls this can be quite an awkward stage when you have been with someone for awhile. Not to get to tricky, but my definition of being with someone is you either, hang out a lot with them, speak to them regularly, are affectionate with each other (kissing, hugging and sleeping with one another) and that you have been doing this for a period of time. Oh and of course that this person is the only person you have been doing those interaction with.

Now I thought I would break this down one step further, why do we need to define a relationship? Well from my experience it can save you from a lot of embarrassing scenarios, i.e. when friends ask you if they are your partner/bf/gf and all you can give them is "oh we are sleeping together" or "we are seeing each other but we are not dating". Believe me when I say this but it does wear thin after awhile and having the kind of uncertainty will in the end will drive anyone a bit banana's.

A DTR appears when either one party is unsure about how each other feels about the relationship and are unsure where to head from it. It is important to have some kind of direction with someone, because at the end of the day you can avoid unnecessary events by being clear and that just means you can get on with your life. Think of it as forward planning, without any lose ends.

So you have reached that point that you realised that you need to define the relationship, so now what?

Here are some suggestions about breaching the topic that you can use,

• Slip it into conversation about other friends relationships, maybe use "oh they are just a great couple,are we a great couple?"
• Be straight forward and ask "are we an item?" 
• Go the other direction and make a comment about how its nice being friends and see if they turn around and go "I thought it was more than that?" (pre-warning, you have to be sure with yourself in case they might actually feel it is a more of a casual thing)
• Ask them out "will you be my girl/boyfriend" you could use starters like, I really enjoy hanging out with you or you make me happy to get the ball rolling.

These are only small ideas on the whole scale of things, but if you have been in a similar situation I would love to hear your feedback. Was it good? bad or indifferent?

Much love and happiness

Z 

Procrastionation Day 16th October

Well well, it seems to have been sometime since I had enough material to warrant a procrastination blog post! I have come to admire people who are very consistent at blogging, it is no easy task to say the least. I find that I will only blog about something that inspires me or that I really just want to share with the world cause it made me smile and I definitely all about sharing the laughter.

So since my wardrobe tamming is taking longer than a week I thought I would give a little peak at what I have been reading over the past month, so enjoy this mini adventure!

• This post about how you feel about you ex had a little bit of truth to it for me, what about you?
• I realised that I unconsciously do this, but we should always surround ourselves with powerful like minded people; because it will make us better!
• It was really kind of mind blowing to read this article on how the current and past generation are dealing with competition of popularity.
• As I don't want kids, reading about what parents shouldn't say to non parents made me become more frustrated with people who say these things constantly to me.

Some food for thought really, a bit of light blog reading; but remember enjoy your day and that even though you are procrastinating you are education yourself too!

Peace

Z

The next chapter!!

Photo from Pinterest

Well the weekend flew by in a crazy wonderful mess, I stayed up till the morning watching the day start on the new chapter of my life. Yes it is a bit cliché in the way it sounds, but I believe there needs to be some symbolism in ones life, because how are you going to recognise growth if you don't make momentous occasions?!

This post was going to be about preparing for a party such as a birthday, this was more in the material sense of what you can do to make things work and look fabulous to your ideal. However I am now feel that with my party that has been, I want to share with you about certain occasion where preparing mentally is just as important as physically.

There are always going to be moments in your life that you build up to, mine is my graduation due in August and the fact that I have turned 25! I planned my birthday 2 months in advance, a bit excessive for some people, but for me it is a natural thing I like to do. When I say plan, I looked at venues, decoration, what I was going to wear and who would possibly come. What I can pass on to you is keep your expectations realistic, I have come across many people who at their party are freaking out that something is not right, like did they provide enough food or will many people come? It made me realise when I was planning my birthday that those concerns are not relevant, at the end of the day you are having a party for you! if no one comes to your birthday then you truly know some of your friends are not really there for you.

Now you say "what do you mean those things are not relevant"?!, yes, having a good amount of food and people show up to your party are factors in making an unforgettable night. If you are consistent in your planning, then you should not have to be concerned about those two factors; when I mean consistent I mean you have to notify people in advance, say 1 month and then send a reminder a week out just before the event. Therefore no one can claim that they did not know about your upcoming events, in today's society, being so busy a couple of reminders do not go a stray and are not on the border of harassment.

After all that it is important to reflect on ones standing when birthday's come round, I sat back and thought about what I had achieved in my 25 years; well I finished high school, went travelling around the world and meet amazing new people who I am privileged to call friends. Now I am writing in new goals that I want to obtain, having a time line is helpful but you have to be aware that there will be hurdles along the way, for me one of my new goals is to move to England and do my overseas experience (OE). I have set the date for my May 2014 but you never know I may end up going earlier due to prices being cheaper or I may end up going later because I am short a bit in funds. Also another goal is that I want to meet more people, preferably out on New Zealand and work toward improving my blogging, plus getting out there more in the workforce. These goals do not really have a specific date, but they are goals that are achievable and satisfying at the end of the day.

I hope after reading this that you are a bit inspired to set some new goals for yourself, why not grab a blank journal and write out what you have achieved and what you plan to do next? Make it pretty and stamp it with your own signature style, it will be a great reference point when you feel like you are losing direction in what you are doing in life. I will post up mine once I have finished!

Please let me know how you get on, I would love to hear from you!!

Peace Out

Z

Procrastination Wednesday 19th June

Dress from Cue

Happy Procrastination Wednesday!

It has been a long time since I have done this, Uni has been my main priority at the moment and I am almost finished! Super exciting really.. Below is some material I have picked up over the last few weeks, above is the dress I will be wearing for my 25th birthday! Cue does the most amazing prints and their styles fit well to my body shape. So enjoy the rest of your week and I will get something new out to you next week, probably will be birthday focused.

• This article really spoke to me about creating better habits in the workplace
• As I am getting into makeup more I thought it was essential to know how to clean your equipment
• What does your face say about you?
• It was an interesting article about happy people, do you agree with the writer?
• Once I have finished my last exam I will definitely be sorting out my email! it is a mess!
• This man's experiment was mind blowing and eye opening!
• Also I found this pretty sweet tutorial about how to apply fake eyelashes

Well that is me, I will see you all next week. 

Have a great weekend!

Peace out

Z

Procrastination Wednesday 10th April

My little snippet of Wellington

Happy Procrastination Day

How has everyone's week been? I am pretty proud of myself getting this written before the week is out, I have such a blast being in Wellington and visiting my friends, I never leave Wellington disappointed!! This week's material is based around my trip, so if you have any plans to go there I suggest to take a look at some of the places I will suggest..

• So this is the bag I took as luggage for 2 days, I am very proud to say that I fitted everything I needed; Country Road bags are extremely popular as luggage bags for short amounts of time. If you are ever in the market for one, I suggest looking at one of these! Mine was jam packed for my 2 day adventure, you never know what you might get up to and I like to be prepared.

My room at Ibis Wellington

• When I got in at 10.30 pm I was pretty happy to have such a comfy room as this, great size, comfortable bed and the reception on the television was perfect. The 24 hour reception was a bonus as I was worried that I might have to call a number to be let in! Overall I had a great experience at Ibis the staff were friendly and helpful, the rooms immaculately clean and the atmosphere very relaxing, but not to mention right in the middle of Wellington central!

• I confess when I go to any place I always go check out the shops, even if they have the same shops like Auckland. I ended up purchasing essentials which made feel very pleased with myself; I brought leggings from Glassons, two beanies from Cotton On, a pair of pajama pants from Cotton On Body and of course I hit the Lush they had! Lastly I got this really nice smelling candle from Ecoya which was sold in Stevens, I am starting to get back into burning scented candles, you just cannot beat a nice smelling room or even home!

So the weekend really consisted of me catching up with friends, eating fabulous food and shopping. What more could a girl ask for? If you are looking for a great breakfast or nice place to chill out I would recommend Olive, I went there on my last day for brunch and had a really nice Eggs Benedict. On a last note when you do go to Wellington (and you should) checkout Cuba St there is such life on this street, I saw a man get arrested and I also go preached to about how I need to be religious. So get among-est the quirkiness and I will see you all next week.

Peace Out

Z

Procrastination Wednesday 13th March

Photo from Pinterest

Happy Procrastination Wednesday

Yay! I am so happy I got the content this week. Felt like I had let you all down by not providing you all with a distraction for your Wednesday. So here is this weeks content:

• Last Friday was international womens day it is pretty cool what the day symbolises, New Zealand was the first country to give women the vote and this day just made me smile. Go Equality!
• Also check out my group pinboard it is dedicated to anything Kiwi
• Here is an interesting review on adrenal fatigue
• Also I read Gala Darlings beginners guide to palmistry it was amazing! definitely want to try it out on my friends
• I just noticed that today's date is the 13/03/13 there is a lot of three's in today's date, so I researched the meaning of the number 3.

Have a good read my friends and leave any comments, I would love to hear from you!

Peace Out

Z

Beauty Review: Face Product

Photo from Lush

So Procrastination Wednesday has been and gone, but what there was nothing to read?! Sorry folks working has kept me busy and I have not been able to source anything read worthy; or more I have a few links that will be interesting but I will save them for a big post!  This week I am going to give my personal review on a product that I have used for the last 3 months and have been very happy with, I was a bit sceptical when I purchased this product but the lady at the store guaranteed I would love it and she wasn't wrong there!!

The product I am talking about is Buche De Noel, which I purchased from a Lush store, if you have not heard about Lush it is a beauty store which bases it's products on being environmentally friendly and ethical. 

When I brought this product it was a completely a new experience for me, I had used the bath bombs and soap but never had I invested in a facial product. After purchasing the item I took it straight home to try it out and boy I was not disappointed. The texture was a little bit strange a first, it felt like I was applying porridge to my face; it smelt so good I wanted to taste it! Surprising after the first wash I felt a difference to my skin, the overall effect was a smooth textured feeling to my skin; everywhere I touched had the same feel, it was a shock as to how quickly it worked. Now I have combination skin, so finding the right type of face wash becomes a balancing act. Everyone's skin changes throughout the year whether it is from the weather or stress or the environment you work in. My pores reduced from consistent use, I was very happy at the result that this product gave me, right from start to finish! However it is a limited edition that comes out around Christmas so I now have to wait until then to purchase another one...

For the price of this product was great, it was roughly $18.00 NZD which is a little pricey, however it managed to last 3 months in which if you divide 18/3, $5 a month is something I can definitely live with. Buche De Noel is great for all skin types, so if you happen to come across it get a sample! 

I hope you found this review helpful and have a great weekend!!!

Peace out

Z

Procrastination Wednesday 20th Feb

Picture from Pinterest

Happy Procrastination Wednesday

So I experienced road rage today, not myself but being the receiver of it. It is kind of strange to obvious the reasons someone decides to be nasty and why they choose to do it. I was pretty happy with myself that I did not react too much, just shrugged my shoulders, better than swearing I say. Next time have a look at yourself or the situation you find yourself and ask "why", try to analyse and answer it, you never know you might discover something about yourself you did know about!

Today I choose to mix procrastination up this week, here are some quotes that I came across that I wanted to share with you.

• You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.
  C. S. Lewis
• Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time. Thomas A. Edison
• Physical fitness is not only one of the most important keys to a healthy body, it is the basis of dynamic and creative intellectual activity.
  John F. Kennedy 
• Also I found some jewelry rule that I thought were realistic
• Plus why do we talk ourselves out of things?

Have a great week/end keep on smiling!!

Peace Out

Z

Procrastination Wednesday 23rd Jan

Photo from Pinterest

Happy Procrastination Wednesday

This week has been up and down for me, the good and the not so good! I haven't been able to work on my vlog yet, due to unforeseen restrictions. Nevertheless we all with continue on, after all isn't that what life is for? to challenge us in many ways. Keep up the good work my friends!

• This week I discovered a beauty website based in little old New Zealand that provides items such as Urban Decay and Elf! I watch a lot of beauty channels and lots of Gurus talk about these products. But since being on the other side of the world it is quite expensive, however this site is reasonable priced and is based locally, yes!!! So that where some of my paycheck will be going, Mucho Gusto. 
• I have noticed that my preference lately is Beauty & Fashion, but knowing me it will change sooner or later, however I found this article on shopping tips which were very handing indeed!
• Also who doesn't need more sparkle in their lives right now?!
• On the organisation note, this article about organising your beauty corner is perfect for the organiser in all of us.
• This brought me to attention about what not to write when describing yourself, it quite surprised me that people use a lot of these adjectives...
• For starters in beauty, look at this article on what type of brushes you should use when applying make-up; it is very educational.

So lovely's enjoy your week! Do let me know about any tips or tricks that you have come across..

Peace Out

Z